No Silver Bullets

Well, I thought I would give an update on this book.  The book is being published by Brown Publishing.  They are wonderful people that have been very supportive.

I am going to say that this is memoir.  It is about my own experiences with depression and addiction.  I emphasize “my own experiences.” The title speaks for itself.

In an environment that prompts immediate gratification, expectations become unrealistic.  People tend to look for solutions that are complete and absolute.  When not found, frustration and anger occur.  Sometimes, that anger goes inward.  Depression and addiction may occur.

Life is about uncertainty and grappling with ambiguous.  In ambiguity, solutions are found.  I consider ambiguity as a state of internal process.  It is in that internal chaos where we are and where our solutions are found.

The only certainty is uncertainty.  As a famous zen master, Suzuki, implies, “Life is a like the water in a river.  It just flows.”  We can not stop it nor can we control much.  Let it go.


Language: Tool for Good or Weapon of Destruction

Social media serves those that need immediate gratification. In seeking that, a lack of prudence is evident. That leads to results that are not fulfilling and that are meaningless. The type of discourse necessary can be categorized. Most meaningful would be face to face. There is an aura that is there that is not there on the computer.

Brent Blonigan

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Language: Tool for Good or Weapon of Destruction

Language is one of our greatest tools.  It is also one of our deadliest weapons.  What we say, how we say it, where we say, and to whom we say it can all have a tremendous impact.  The environment and the listener’s state of mind add to the impact.  Emotions come into play.  Statements are taken out of context.  Statements can and will be misinterpreted.  Once communicated, one;s statement may have positive or negative results.  There is a strong possibility at times that the resulting reaction to the statement may be completely contrary to the intention.  Once a statement is made, it cannot be taken back.  History is made, and it cannot be reversed.  What is said or has been written down becomes permanently memorialized.  In a word, it is irreparable.

How do you use or separate emotion from verbal communication?  That is the question.  There is no bullet-proof answer.  One of my weaknesses is that my anger gets in my way.  And people get in the way of my anger.  I have gotten in the way of other individuals’ anger.  I am sure that this is the case with many others.  Then, one or the other ends regretting what they have said or not said.  Afterwards, there are feelings of remorse.  If there is retaliation from the recipient, the situation escalates.  There may even by more anger.  Then, the question becomes who is in control and who is not in control–until it reaches a point where there is no possible reparation or no one really cares.

If one is a sociopath or a reptile, I guess none of the really matters, since they are cold-blooded anyway–to them, someone else’s emotions do not matter.  Therefore, they do what they do.  IN business, that type of creature seems to be more prevalent than in the past.  Automation and the Internet does not help.  They have made people more cold-blooded and less thinking.  You do not get a hug from a computer screen or a text message.  Yet, so many people would rather communicate through mechanical devices.

Whatever the case, as far as the above is concerned, it seems that more people in the work environment have become alienated.  Too often, the work environment is perceived as a hostile world that takes the life out of people.  So many times, perhaps because of all the bureaucracy, whether private or public, workers are subject to more than their fair share of angst, dread, and spiritual deprivation.


When Is Enough, Enough?

It seems that there is never enough money.  Exactly, when do we have enough money?  All that many of us think about is money.  For the sake of money, we give away our power and our soul.  Subconsciously, we think that we will bring what we amass with us to our next life.  How ridiculous is that?  Frankly, it is disgusting.  Perhaps, it is the “root of all evil.”  How many people who have amassed great wealth were, are, and will continue to be evil? (“Evil” as in selfish, narcissistic, ignorant of the world’s poor, disenfranchised, uneducated, and disabled, victims of natural disasters…and the list goes on.)

I am disgusted with myself.  I am disgusted with our society.  Since when should the main topic of the basic laws of attraction, known for generations since the beginning of time, be about money and abundance.  Power seems to be misconstrued with how much money we have.  This is not power. This is one of the biggest lies out there.  Rather than gaining power through money, you lose it.  You are submissive to money.  You become a slave to your desires.  Whatever happened to some of the other principles associated with the other side of the coin, so to speak?  Would it not be better to be submissive to those other principles?  The opposite of greed would be generosity.  Do we think about this enough?  I know that I do not.

The bottom line with accumulating money and wealth and property is that it will drive you crazy.  It drives me crazy.  Every day, I see the same insanity.  I think and feel that idolizing money is an addiction like any other addiction.  Perhaps, it may be the worst one of them all.  Think about the number of wars that have been conducted, how many people have been killed, and for what?  We sell out our avaricious soul for something that is cheap, perhaps even dirty.  Why so many people, including myself, are driven by money is simply beyond me?  Money does not simplify–it complicates.  Without recognizing its consuming power, like any other addiction, it can fully destroy one’s being.

As simple as it sounds, it is interesting to watch marketing efforts.  It is interesting to watch the exchange of money.  In the minds of many, the exchange of money is regarded as an exchange of power.  It goes from one hand to another.  The vibe of that kind of power exchange is really kind of vile.  It is cold.  The thought that abundance comes from money is inherently and utterly false.  I wonder what would happen if we simply stopped desiring money.  Rather than desiring more, what if we detached ourselves?  Imagine what life would be like if we were not stressing out about the need for more money.  Actually, without that stress, we might be more authentically ourselves.  By being our true selves, it would seem that we would attract more people to our interest and the interests of others.  By being more personally authentic, we could help others more; we could help ourselves more.  God forbid if we turned our focus out of ourselves.  If there is a God, for most certainly there is, He would want that.