This morning, I read that the ethnic group with the lowest self esteem are the Asian Americans. This is an irony. At the same time, this ethnic group has the highest academic performance. Most of us certainly are aware that this ethnic group has a tendency to be more family orientated. Kind of interesting.
In America, it is this culture that focuses on individuality. While I make no judgment on whether that is good or bad; it does seem that it is also a culture that focuses on me. Self admiration, or too much of it, may be more of a problem than a solution. For many, it seems that self admiration probably really narcissism. Too many of us are really afraid to call it for what it is. Where did the thought or the implication come up that this self admiration, perhaps, narcissism, causes success–let alone respect. When you dwell on this, the question really becomes what is imaginary and what is real. One has to ask the question about what comes first. With the Asians, to me, it seems that it is work, followed by success, is what converts to self esteem. What I know I know is that I know many narcissistic individuals who are so busy imagining their own success but not actually being successful. Is this what we call a poser or someone that is truly unfortunate? I am not sure.
I always resent, to the point of hate, when individuals are clearly looking for undeserved attention. I guess we can look at Hollywood and Washington DC. These people are masters in keeping the spotlight on themselves. They will do about anything to get what they so desperately need. It is that attention. It is one of the most despicable addictions. That being the obnoxious need for attention. Regardless of your faith; the focus on one’s own needs above the needs of others is wrong. Why we do not call this out is beyond me? Thinking your great and actually being great is what the narcissistic person has no grasp on. Perhaps, this is what is wrong with America today.
When I meditate, I do not, or try not to think about how great I am. Being sarcastic, sometimes, that is a challenge. I invite parties to respond. When you meditate, do you imagine moments when you are in front of the mirror or is the imagery about something you did for someone else. When I get away from myself, I guess I feel more grounded with the world.